Since I was home yesterday in the middle of the day, I turned on Dr. Phil, and I was not disappointed. At least twice he uttered "It's Not About Yooouuuu." :o)
The segment was related to parents that push to hard to be involved in their children's lives, and are actually living vicariously through them, at a high price for the children. When the kids finally get out from under the thumb, they rebel and many end up ruining their lives in one way or another.
Dr. Phil asked each of the parents, how do you define success in raising your children? After dialogue and "coaching" from Dr. Phil, words such as; confident, self assured, clear values, own skill sets, own goals, and being who they want to be" were the key elements. While we may aspire for our children to be successful (Doctor, Lawyer, Scientist, Artist, Musician, Engineer, Teacher, etc.), the true measure of success is for our children to do something that they are passionate about.
Lastly, the biggest measure of success as a parent is to prepare our children for life. When we are no longer around, whether due to them going off to college or living on their own, or due to our death, they have the values and self assurance to move on with their lives.
May all the parents out there be "successful".
2 comments:
Amen Brother. Dr. Phil has a lot of wisdom to give if one would listen. I love when he says "and how's that workin' for ya?".
Joyce
I kind of wrote something similiar in my entry "The Age of Dreams"...about parents vicariously living through their children instead of finding their own way. Seeing my daughter into adulthood, I have to honestly say...it will never be about what you want, rather what they want and need to fulfill their own lives. If we want our children to grow up whole, we have to accept their failings and mistakes just as our parents did ours. (Hugs) Indigo
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